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Don’t SHOH8!!!

Posted by Daniel on June 26, 2013

ImageOkay, with all the revelry over today’s landmark and HISTORIC decisions from SCOTUS, there is something I, as a gay American would like to say.

I’ve already seen the hateful venom being poured out on the media and internet from those who adamantly oppose marriage equality. I get that. It’s to be expected. And no amount of talk from myself or anyone else will ever really change many of their minds. This is, after all, based on their sense of morality/beliefs. We can do nothing to sway the diehard Prop 8 and DOMA supporters, other than to go forward as examples of how these decisions in no way threaten them. Religious or political views are, in many cases, something that they can’t change. I respect that. But it’s time to live up to that religious precept of not judging. It really is time.

And to all of my fellow revelers out there…Yes, we have reason to celebrate. This has, indeed, been a long hard-fought battle. But there are two things we, as a community need to remember…First, no matter how long this battle has been, it isn’t nearly won. There is still so very far we have to go to make marriage equality the law of ALL the land…not just parts of it. So celebrate our victories, but don’t put down that banner just yet. And second, in your revelry, please try to show a little class in NOT throwing F-bombs or other vitriolic rhetoric at those who oppose marriage equality. It’s not who we are and not helpful in our cause. In every decision there are winners and losers (not meant in any negative way). Someone wins and someone loses. Today was our day to win and while it’s been a long time in coming, lets try not to sling the same hate back at those who tried to hold us down. 

On that note, major congratulations to those who fought so very hard on our behalf, to those who sacrificed so very much, and to all of us who now are one MAJOR step closer to true equality.


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The Hard Truth About Living A Lie

Posted by Daniel on June 14, 2010

Not IF He Never Comes Back

Dear Readers:

You’ve been wondering where I’ve been for the past several months. Well,truth is I’ve been right here all along. Staring at the computer unable to form a cohesive thought to write because of recent events. And I’m going to share those events with YOU, because I feel it could (in some small way, possibly) help the next poor sap out there who feels they can never have their better half tear their hearts out in ways you NEVER thought they could. Causing you to say and think things to/about them that you NEVER imagined yourself EVER thinking.

What you’re about to read was a project assigned to me by the head of a group session I’ve been attending for the past 6 weeks. The group is for those in relationships who were jilted in emotionally traumatic ways by someone who, as it turned out, dumped them.

The project for last week was to have a written letter (written TO the one who left us) saying EVERYTHING we were otherwise too weak or messed up to say to that person IN person. The first half of the letter was to serve as a mirror FOR the people who dumped us…the last part was to be a mirror to US to show what we really feel, no matter how messed up it seemed.

It’s pretty hard to read, but believe me when I say, it was a billion times harder to write. Funny thing is, I did it without a single edit. Strange how a broken heart can say it all on the first draft.

Thanks, again, for being so patient these past several months, but as you’ll see from the following, it’s been pretty hard to muster up the strength or the time to write fun pieces about politics or angry shit about oil spills of late.

Also, I KNOW there are going to be the usual people out there who read this and want to tell me that this is not an appropriate forum with which to expose/spill all of the following. To them I say, this is MY website where I get to vent MY life and rants and thoughts. I certainly don’t intend for ANYONE to be offended by what they’re about to read, but it IS part of MY life and My healing. Besides, I know that as much as HE wants to read this letter, he won’t out of fear of what it says.

So, here is where I’ve been all this time…


Dear Seth,

I’ve been trying for months to come up with the right words to say to you regarding everything you’ve been doing over the past nine (+) months and, as a result of that, everything you’ve done. There are no easy ways of expressing my feelings without giving it to you straight and to the point.

So here goes…

I hate everything you have become. I hate everything you’ve done, not only to me but everybody else around you, including our animals. I think you became a very weak-minded person who decided it was easier to take advantage of me and our situation than to be the real man I KNEW you to be and resist bullshit temptation. Even you know that too much partying leads to bad things.

While I am very proud to have heard you actually use the word “inappropriate” to describe your behavior, it still pains me that you continue down that same road, even now knowing just HOW inappropriate you’re actions have been.

You started breaking up with me over a year ago and you still, to this day, won’t admit it to me. You mistakenly convince yourself that I am too fragile minded to handle even the simplest truth about what you’ve done. You underestimate me at every turn with every lie of omission. The truth of the matter is that you fell into a lifestyle that even YOU knew was wrong and immoral and yet you still want to live that way.

I knew when you cheated on me almost the very first time. Don’t keep denying it because I KNOW you did. What pains me most about that (other than I TRUSTED YOU and you KNEW it was wrong!!) is the fact that you just kept doing it. And the proof is out there…too many witnesses. I loved you, Seth. I trusted you implicitly. I trusted you with my life because you TOLD me I could. Then one day you decided what we were struggling to build together wasn’t worth it anymore. So you slowly but surely decided to begin to emotionally and physically move on away from me and US and never bothered to tell me about it. You actually thought I would never find out what you’d been doing. At least until you were good and gaw-damned ready to tell me. Wrong move.

I thought you loved me. I trusted every time you told me that. I BELIEVED YOU every time. Because of that, it wasn’t hard to notice when you began to not say it to me unless I said it to you. Then you just STOPPED saying it altogether. You stabbed the heart you were trusted with, Seth.

I knew a long time ago that you have always been impressed with people who knew people because if you got close to them, doors would open for you. Funny thing is, ever since you started down the path you are on now, just how close to those dreams ARE you now???

I KNEW what your attraction to Todd was (and I KNOW you were in love with him, which makes you a cheater there, too) and I KNEW that was why you never wanted me invited to ANYTHING you two ever did. And I DO know EVERYTHING you two did!!! You were wrong for doing that. Using him for personal gain. And you were wrong for treating me like I didn’t exist during that time.

Then there are all the guys you’ve been exchanging dic-pics and videos with since at LEAST early last year. You’re a piece of shit for doing that, because you KNEW it was wrong, but you decided what Daniel doesn’t know won’t hurt him. How fucking wrong you were. How fucking wrong you ARE!!

I know your guilt. I’ve been through this shit before and with assholes who were (to a point) MUCH better at covering the tracks of their lies and cheating. But I’m going to give you one gift here…I am going to confess something to YOU!! I have, in the ENTIRE TIME we were supposedly “together”, lied to you exactly ONE time.

I DID LOOK THROUGH YOUR PHONE!!! And after MUCH digging and MANY hours of scanning, discovered MANY things you were doing even BEFORE Todd came into the picture.

To this very day, I STILL cry about lying to you about that. Because I love you and yet I still broke one of my own rules…

3) NO FIGHTING (arguing is good – fighting isn’t)

But even you said it, you didn’t leave me any options because you were hanging FAR TOO MANY secrets over me and OUR lives. And yet…

Two wrongs do NOT make a right, and I do, with all my heart, owe you an apology for lying to you about that. And I truly AM sorry.

So many times since all of this started, Seth, I asked you “why??”.  Every time your answer was, “I don’t know.  I can’t seem to figure that out.  So I can’t give you a solid reason.”  And to this very day, you still won’t tell me why you threw a GOOD life away for whatever the hell you’re living now.  So once again, you get away with everything scott-free.

I never cheated on you.  I never lied to you.  I sacrificed EVERYTHING for you.  I made ALL of the concessions and sacrifices because I loved you.  I wouldn’t even allow you to walk to work (two blocks away) because I didn’t want you to have to walk.  Instead, I walked, and I work almost a mile down the street!!  In the heat.  In the rain.  I got hit by a GD car and STILL I walked so that YOU wouldn’t have to.  Many times, I walked because you took the truck overnight to “a friends’ house” and I was FORCED to walk to work because you never came home!!

So you had it pretty good here, Seth.  You had someone who devoted his LIFE to making yours better.  Someone who supported you and had your back NO MATTER WHAT!!  Someone who loved you unconditionally, with no strings attached, with no price tag, with no regret.  How many times and to how many people (including me) did you say, “I can’t possibly imagine not being with Daniel.  I KNOW that we were made for one another.  I love him with all my heart.”???  One month later, I find out that you’d been cheating on me.

As I said, I pretty much know what you were trying to gain by falling in love with Todd. You had a FEW similar interests and he had the POTENTIAL to introduce you to others you might see as possible windows of opportunity. Fine. I couldn’t provide you with that kind of life (YET), so you began falling in “love” with him. And I KNOW there was “stuff” going on between you two because NO FRIEND has THAT MANY SLEEPOVERS without sex. PERIOD!!

Okay, so there was the attraction to Todd. The other guys you’ve done or not done whatever with? I’ll just chalk that up to you being weak as shit and WAY too social!! But Patrick…!!

Now THIS is something I JUST DON’T FUCKING GET!!! And it’s probably because you DID completely break it off with me BECAUSE of him!!!! You can’t possibly deny what’s right there in front of both of us. YOU’RE WITH HIM!!! YOU LEFT ME TO BE WITH HIM!!! Just be fucking honest with both me AND yourself and admit that!!! I DON’T see the attraction. I don’t see the potential for ANYTHING long-term. Period!! So you fucking left me for a gaw-damned fucking fling. Then you fucking fell in love with him WHILE we were still (supposedly) together!! You’re a fucking callous, cowardly and cruel ASSHOLE for doing that and putting me through all the half-truths (if not outright LIES) for that period from October 17, 2009 until you finally HAD to tell me we were broken up!!! FUCK YOU FOR THAT!!! I deserved better than for YOU (of ALL people) to disrespect and take advantage of me AND OUR LOVE like that!!

Okay, I’ll give you the point…maybe you truly ARE in TRUE love with him. Good for you. I hope you both get what you both so richly deserve out of it. Honestly, I don’t think it’ll last the end of the year, but I’ve been wrong about everything else about you, so hey, congratulations.

Oh, and there are a few other items I have to pick at…you made many promises that you broke. Actually, you broke EVERY promise you ever made.

And this brings me to just WHY you made me write this letter. And I’m not even going into the red-headed Todd who swims naked in his pool, or the other black guys on this part. There just isn’t enough paper to print my feeling out about THAT shit.

It’s going to be in the form of a list, so perhaps that’ll make it easier for you to absorb.

Ready? Here goes…

1) All the “sleepovers” or “I just crashed over at a friends house”. – You had a home and AS a person in a relationship, it was your DUTY to resist any temptations and be responsible for your actions AND to CONSIDER your partners’ feelings IN those actions. You never did.

2) The pic/video exchanges. – No matter HOW YOU saw it EVER (like the one you sent to Vern that you explained away as “It was just a joke”…the same Vern who later attacked the truck with you in it because he felt that you had been leading him on!!), it was wrong EVERY SINGLE TIME YOU DID IT!!! And it WAS cheating!!!

3) All that time with Todd. – No matter what the “situations”, you made everything obvious by never having ONCE invited your CURRENT partner to a single get-together with just him and you. You made YOURSELF look guilty with that, and EVERYONE said so. It made me feel that, Todd being the kind of person that I know him to be, you MUST have made him believe that you and I were either an “open relationship”, or separated, or really close friends or whatever. I just doubt he would have taken it so far had he known the TRUTH about us. Correct me if I’m wrong.

4) Your involvement with your CURRENT lover (since day-one). – You began that shit WHILE we were still together and I KNEW you were screwing around with him. From that one night we were on our way home from the bar and you blurted out to me, “Oh and I’m also into black guys.” Never ONCE did you ever even INTIMATE to me in four fucking YEARS anything like that. And DON’T hand me any sense of prejudice shit, either. I love ALL people (unless their fat, retarded, idiots or CHEATERS). I am not prejudice at all. My sexual PREFERENCE is to white guys, but that AIN’T not prejudice. So your fucking (or getting!!!) HIM has no relevance to race. It’s just that when you blurted that shit out to me in the truck, I KNEW you were starting something with him and it just fucking killed me inside. Because the way you were acting with THIS one showed me that you DID fall in love with him and you DID lie to me about IT AND when it started and how you felt about me.

5) During that eight months since you started seeing Patrick, you were lying to me.  You kept telling me everything was going to be ok.  Every time I asked you if you were sleeping with someone else, you’d get mad and tell me NO.  But I knew.  I knew because that person TOLD other people, who told me.  Other people SAW you two together AS a couple.  And all the while, you would try to reassure me that all was well with you and I and to stop worrying about it.  You kept blaming you mood swings (emotional distance) on your history of bouts of depression.  And like the true idiot I was, (knowing the TRUTH) I defended that lie with anyone who asked what was wrong with you.  Maybe you WERE depressed…but I think it was more guilt, though I doubt you acknowledged it as such.  One minute you’d be defending yourself and reassuring me that we, AS A COUPLE, and our relationship was FINE…the next you were telling EVERYONE ELSE that we had already broken up.  You did that FOR EIGHT MONTHS!!  Then when I finally MADE you own up to whether or not we, in fact, WERE OR WERE NOT still a couple, you finally had to tell the truth.  But even THEN, you kept telling me for two MORE months, that you just needed to get through this phase and for me to hold in there because you were doing all of this (CHEATING???) for US.  To fix what was wrong with US.  You told me that you had “lost feelings” for me, but when I asked what feelings, you said you didn’t know.  When you told me you just didn’t know how to appreciate me anymore, I asked WHY.  You had no answer.  You told me we would get back together on the 1st of June if you hadn’t figured out what your problems were by then.  You said that you’d see a psychologist because you had too many internal issues.  None of that ever happened.  You were either placating me…or outright LYING.

All the acts of a weak and intentionally or unintentionally cruel person. AND I KNOW THAT ISN’T REALLY THE TRUE SETH DANIEL LOWE!!!! So stop trying to convince me that that IS how you are!! That’s fucking bullshit!!!

Now it’s time to refresh your memory as to the things you SAID to me that broke my heart each and EVERY time you were proven to be lying, either to me, to yourself or to both of us. And I know how you HATE having your own words thrown back in your face, Seth, but how are you EVER going to learn what NOT to do until someone points out the shit you say that holds no water at the TIME you say it? From the time all this shit started, here’s how you hurt me…in pretty much the order you said and did them…

1) “NONE of this is so that i can sleep with other people or fuck around.” (how’d that work out?)
2) “I’m not going to fall in love with anyone else but you.” (and don’t keep saying it’s not like you PLANNED to…it still turned out to be untrue!!)
3) “We’re not breaking up, I swear. It’s just a hiatus so that I can get over the shit in my head that’s distracting me from US.” (not long after you said this to me, I found out several of your “distractions”.)
4) “We need to try a trial or partial separation. I think that will help me out a lot.” (you made this all about you.)
5) “No, you haven’t done ANYTHING wrong. You’ve been the PERFECT person for me and in ALL the world, you ARE the one person FOR me!!” (you not only said that to me, but to several other people as well. and you wonder why I and everyone else are so fucking shocked about you, soon after, leaving me for Patrick or anyone else???)
6) (to several people) “I resent Daniel because he isn’t working two jobs like I have to do. I can’t keep CARRYING us like this!!!” (I fucking HATE you for that one, Seth!!! We BOTH made the same amount of $$ per month, but I didn’t HAVE to have two jobs to do it!!)
7) “Hiatus and Separation and Break-up all mean the same thing!!!” (no, they fucking don’t!!)
8) “I’m only doing this so that I can get my head together so that we can be what we were.” (do you even remember what we were, Seth?)
9) (after the truth about Patrick came out) “You have to let me go through this. I’m doing this for US.” (no, at this point, you were only thinking with your dick!!!)
10) (soon after that) “You need to try to get yourself together and get over it. You have to be strong.” (no way in HELL to be strong when you spent eight months knocking me down emotionally, ending in you dumping me for HIM!!!)
11) (after you admitted to having sex with Patrick for weeks) “I PROMISE I will end it. No more sex with him. I will stop seeing him completely.  I promise.” (that very night, you spent the night with him and didn’t come home until almost noon the next day.)
12) “Just give me until June 1st. If I haven’t fixed my shit by then, I’ll leave him and we will get back together and find ANOTHER way to solve my issues.” (I knew THAT was bullshit the second you said it)
13) “You don’t think I’m suffering, too???” (at his house…in his arms…yeah, boohoo!!)
14) “It’s NOT my fault you don’t have any friends!! You should have been more social!!” (you mean the way YOU were? No thanks!! I still HAVE my morals. Besides, I was too busy WORKING and SAVING and keeping us afloat while you went out every night spending money!!  And MY friends don’t come with a price tag of “sleep with me or we can’t be friends”) (speaking of morals, see #16)
15) “I know you’re ‘frustrated’. Just go to the computer and “TAKE CARE OF BUSINESS”, then go to bed.” (so easy for the guy who was cheating on me at the time to say)
16) (referring to pending lawsuit settlement) “I only asked if you were going to give me any of that money NOT for the money itself, but because if you had said NO, then I would know your morals had changed.” (who the fuck are YOU to talk to ANYONE, ESPECIALLY ME, about questionable morals??? you cheated on me and lied about it for eight months!!!)

Now, I know what you’ve probably been thinking while reading this. Those same questions are racing through your head:
“Why the fuck didn’t he ever say any of this shit to me before?”
“Where is all of this coming from?”
“Who told him what?”
“Why won’t he ever tell me who said shit about me?”
“What does he really know, and what HASN’T he told me?”

Just keep in mind, Seth, even THROUGH all of this – and it has been torture like you would never comprehend, thanks to you – I will never reveal sources. Mostly because they aren’t always people you talk to every day. But you know each and every one of them and they ALSO know and love you!! Their concerns voiced and pointed out (sometimes in graphic detail) were out of concern FOR you…AND US!!! And I choose not to reveal those names. I don’t have to. Not until you come clean with me on all the names and THINGS you have done since day one. And please, I am a VERY SMART MAN who KNOWS that some things CAN be unintentionally blown out of proportion or lost in translation. I AM smart enough to know that, Seth. But I think what makes you mad is that you know that I KNOW that even fairy tales have SOME basis in truth. Meaning at LEAST 90% of what I know IS true.

Time now to tell you something about the here and now. Believe it or not, this might actually make you even more angry at me than what you’ve read so far, but at this point, I don’t care.


I want you to get your fucking shit together and fucking LEAVE THAT GUY!!! It’s time to fucking grow the fuck up and realize that you had a FUTURE with US. Your insatiable NEED for social acceptance should NEVER have led you to simply throw US AND OURT LOVE AND OUR HISTORY AWAY!!! I am nobody’s gaw-damned Kleenex, Seth and you treated me JUST like one. I want you to give US another try, because that’s what’s SUPPOSED to happen!!! You WERE right about a few things, Seth, and one of those things was that WE ARE made for one another!!

I’ll bet you’re wondering how I can say that in light of everything that’s happened. Because I believe in second chances. I believe in FIGHTING FOR THE ONE I LOVE!! I believe in YOU!!! And I REFUSE to believe you just don’t fucking love me anymore!!! NO WAY my Seffy can be that heartless!!! Just simply no fucking way.

Will I ever be able to forget all that has happened? Probably not. But ONLY because that, too, is now part of my (or our) history. And our history is what makes all of us who we are.

Will I ever forgive? Oh yes. Because that’s what true love really means. When you decide to give the other a second chance, it MUST be with the caveat that there can be NO lording the past over the other person…not even in times of stress or anger. I know this, Seth, because as much of a bitch as I am, I have a heart and I have a brain. So I could nor WOULD NEVER use the past as a weapon against you. I want you back and that means leaving the emotional baggage behind. It isn’t needed or WELCOME on this JOURNEY.

Do you remember what I said to you about how life CAN NOT BE about the destination, but what matters is the journey the two of us are on? It’s still fucking true.

I want you back, Seth. I know that you will say no. I know that you have looked at me in the past as some messy sappy queer who just refuses to get over shit. You would be wrong about that, too. You may have lost sight of what it truly means to be in TRUE love during this period…but I haven’t.

To the contrary, all of this has shown me even more of an appreciation for love, life, those around me, OUR animals, and ESPECIALLY you!!!

Funny thing…I never lost MY appreciation for YOU. I never lost feelings for YOU. I NEVER RESENTED YOU.

Not once. Not though all of this. Not even now.

And no, I DON’T need therapy!! I truly DO know just how much I feel for you and WHY I feel it and whom I love. I am now, and have been throughout all of this (to one extent or another) fully in charge of my faculties and feelings and emotions. You may still OWN my heart, but I truly know what’s in it.

I know that what I’m demanding of you isn’t easy for you. I understand that, unlike for me, you
probably can’t just shut off your feelings for him. I even know that I’m just probably pissing in the wind. But I also KNOW what I truly, madly, deeply feel and I, unlike you, refuse to ignore MY feelings anymore.

You told me at one point I should try being and living single, maybe as a way of dealing with what I feel about you. Yeah, probably. But there’s one thing you keep forgetting, Seth…

I’ve been practically single and recently LIVING single for eight months now!! And I’ve been through hell and back when it comes to all of the emotions that came with that realization. I think that in your mind, I haven’t given myself time or the chance to let go and move on and heal. Not true. I have tried for MONTHS (through each lonely day and night) to see things AS a single person, because that is exactly what you MADE me when you started all of this. Yes, it’s been so very hard trying to convince myself that I’m not in love with you anymore (as I know you haven’t been in love with me for a long time). I’ve gone out, socialized, (more than you know) made some new friends and made connections not only to some nice high-up people, but also to a group of people who share my experiences.

In a way, that helped me get through the horrid range of emotions that you caused me to go through…mostly alone. And that’s the key word here, Seth…you basically made me go through it all alone. Sure, when you WERE here, we’d talk and you’d do your best to talk me down from whatever emotional ledge I happened to be on that particular day. But then you’d just leave.

And that hurt so much.

But I still think I deserve to be with you. I DO think you ARE ready and DO deserve to be with ME.

If, however, you just flat out and HONESTLY tell me that you CAN’T EVER be in love with me, please just tell me.

Just one more question, Seth…please, Honey, PLEASE, just tell me WHY you DID all of this. The REAL reason(s). No more placating or omissions. Just the truth. Said to…

Your friend…Me (Daniel)

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Because It’s Become A Holiday Tradition

Posted by Daniel on December 23, 2009

WARNING: The following tale is not suitable for people under the age of 18. It is highly recommended that if you are easily offended by gay imagery or stereotyped wordage, you click away from this story immediately. We don’t want to offend ANYONE, but don’t want to be told off for using our artistic license.


She’s A Mean One!!!

Every gay up in Fresno liked Christmas a lot, but the Bitch,

who seldom stepped foot in the area, most certainly did not.

The Bitch hated Christmas, the whole Christmas season!

Now, please don’t ask why…no one quite knows the reason.

It could be her wig wasn’t pinned on just right.

Or, perhaps it was that her cheap Payless pumps were too tight.

But I think that the most likely reason of all

May have been that her pee-pee was 2 inches too small.

But whatever the reason, she stood there they said

Hating each faggot and every last lez.

Staring down from the stage, glitter dusted and gorgeous,

Her face looking flawless, her tits quite enormous.

For she knew every Fresno gay, so tanned and so buff

Was now primping and tweezing and bleaching and stuff.

“And they’re waxing their back hair!” she snarled with a sneer.

“Tomorrow is Christmas! It’s practically here!”

Then she hissed, and just stood there looking quite stunning,

“I must find some way to stop Christmas from coming!”

For tomorrow the sodomites and carpet munchers

Will roll out of bed around 9:00 for their brunches.

They will walk hand in hand all over the place

Throwing their sick lifestyles in her gorgeous face.

And then they’d do something she liked least of all…

Every Fresno gay with their shaved low-hanging balls

In their way-too-tight t-shirts and their metal cock rings

Every drunk little faggot actually sings.

They sing Nicki,  Rihanna and Christina…its scary

Young ones sing Carly and Katy Perry

Brittany, Lady Ga-Ga, so many choices

Warbled out in effeminate, weak little voices.

And the more the Bitch thought of those fags trying to sing,

The more the Bitch thought, “I must stop this thing!”

“Why for 40…23 years I’ve put up with it now!

I must stop this Christmas from coming…but how?”

Then she got an idea, an awful idea!

The Bitch got a wonderfully awful idea!

Their apartments were empty, no one was at home

Disowned by their families, they despise being alone.

To the gay bars they march to spend all their money

Fools who think Smirnoff is good and Ellen is funny.

The Bitch tried the door but it was locked tight.

Thank goodness she watched CHARLIE’S ANGELS last night.

From her sassy new do she removed a hairpin

And picking the lock, she let herself in.

The place was atrocious, a postmodern bad dream

Filled with crap from Ikea, Pier 1 and Linen’s & Things.

With sad touches of retro: a new lava lamp

And a chrome vintage toaster, in short it was camp.

She slithered and slunk, with a smile most unpleasant

Around the whole room and she took every present!!

Hair products, work-out gear, bronzer and more.

Skimpy little slut shorts and tank tops galore.

Male grooming products,the latest iPhone

Calvin Klein underwear and his stinky cologne.

An expensive l’Gea hair removal system

And so many drugs I can barely list them.

Acid and Crystal, Crank, Crack and Ice

Two 8balls of coke when one would suffice.

Poppers and Special K, plenty of X

And their stockings stuffed full of perverted gay sex.

Magazines, dirty books, all sorts of porn

Filthy smut movies by Kristen Bjorn.

Spunk personal lubricant, dildos this long,

Tit clamps and assless chaps, a two-headed dong.

Butt plugs and anal beads, soon to be shoved

“Have pity on them, they just want to be loved!”

The Bitch laughed to herself as she filled up her bags

Taking everything dear to the tired Fresno fags.

Once full, she twist-tied them and gave them the boot

And sent all the presents right down the trash shoot.

Then she slunk to the fridge, she ate the gay’s food!

She guzzled and gobbled and chowed down quite rude.

She ate wilted arugula, baked Brie and pate

Free range turkey, garlic-stuffed olives and crème Brule.

Basmati rice with Maui onions and sun-dried tomatoes

Rustic tex-mex, sage-infused roasted new potatoes.

Chilean sea bass and pumpkin ravioli

The Bitch washed it down with a bottle of Stoli.

Then the Bitch went postal on the fag’s Christmas tree

Tearing it limb from limb, as wild as she could be.

Lights popped as she karate-chopped, spinning like a twister,

Till the tree looked like it had been decorated by

Martha Stewart’s retarded sister.

The Bitch then smashed the gays’ most prized possession:

A pink triangle ornament…and then she smelled Obsession.

She turned around fast and saw a sleepy Gay

Little Sasha Jay Gay, who was 19 if he was a day.

The Bitch had been caught by this underage stud

Who could not go to bars yet and he resembled Paul Rudd

Paul Rudd was in “Clueless” and “Object of My Affection”

He always gave the Bitch a tiny little erection.

He stared at the Bitch and said, “Oh God, Savanah, why?”

“By the way, I’m half-blind, hung like a horse and bi.”

The Bitch started sweating, she needed to think

Then she smiled at the boy and gave him a wink.

“Your friends felt so bad that you couldn’t have fun

That they bought you a hooker, and I am the one!”

“Your Christmas present is me, you see

I’ve been hired to satisfy you, sexually.”

The Bitch thought the boy would run away

After all, this is Fresno, where no one’s supposed to be gay.

But not only did Sasha not disappear,

He was drooling and smiling from ear to cute ear.

“He really IS bi”, the Bitch thought in her head

“C’mon whore!” said Sasha, “Lets go to bed.”

“Ive a better idea, you lock the door

And lets do it all night right here on the floor.”

The boy wasn’t waxed, or bleached or tan

And he fucked like only a nineteen year old can.

They did it three times and then did it once more

And the Bitch really felt like a hot little whore.

And what happened next? Well in Fresno they say

That the Bitches small penis grew five inches that day.

No longer a drag queen and quite into ALL men,

The Bitch now frequents ALL the bars…including The Legends.

The End

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The Origin of Our Species Has Been Revealed

Posted by Daniel on September 21, 2009


I think the hate crime baiting, oft-asked question of where the hell gays come from (or how are they made?) has, at long last, been finally and definitively answered.

Or has it?

I always thought it was genetic (which I KNOW it is).

But some have said it’s environmentally caused.

Or perhaps those of us similarly blessed were just suckled or coddled (or both) by our moms waaaaay too long.

There are plenty of theories as to how gays come into being. And on this particular subject, I tend to think that anyone who DOESN’T think a person is born gay obviously was born with THEIR head up THEIR ass. Like my view on opinions, which I will divulge later.

I bring all of this up because of what happened during yet another Republican wound-licking event called the “Value Voters Summit”. I won’t bore you with all the lies, drivel, hypocrisy, pandering bull shit they vomited out to their way-too-overly-excited crowd of toothless white trash who are suckling at the governmental teats of Medicare while bitching about the possibility of “Barack The Magic Negro” (Rush Limbaugh played that fucking song again on his show during the summit) getting government into their healthcare.

No…I won’t go into that crap.

But I will talk about the latest piece of wedge-issue shit the Republicans are now throwing out as red meat to their hungry white trashy minions.

Brace yourself…



That pearl of wisdom came from Michael Schwartz, chief of staff for Sen. Tom Coburn (R-OK).

At the Family Research Council’s Values Voters Summit, Family Research Council Senior Fellow Pat Fagan, Heritage Foundation scholar Matthew Spalding and Michael Schwartz, the chief of staff for Sen. Tom Coburn, held a discussion on “The New Masculinity.” Schwartz, who was the final speaker, said that Fagan wanted him to discuss “how men, who already are good husbands and fathers,” can “change the culture.”

A few minutes into his speech, Schwartz moved to the topic of pornography, calling it a “blight” and a “disease” that parents’ “sons” would encounter. Noting that he was about to get “politically incorrect,” Schwartz said that it is his “observation that boys at that age have less tolerance for homosexuality than just about any other class of people.

Schwartz claims that his “ex-gay” friend revealed the true secret of how homosexuality is “inflicted on people”:

“And one of the things that he said to me, that I think is an astonishingly insightful remark. He said, “all pornography is homosexual pornography because all pornography turns your sexual drive inwards. Now think about that. And if you, if you tell an 11-year-old boy about that, do you think he’s going to want to go out and get a copy of Playboy? I’m pretty sure he’ll lose interest. That’s the last thing he wants.” You know, that’s a, that’s a good comment. It’s a good point and it’s a good thing to teach young people.

But all pornography is homosexual pornography because all pornography turns your sexual drive inwards. And that in fact is what it does. I know couples now who are struggling with the husband’s addiction to pornography. It’s a terrible thing, and that is what happened to him. You know, if it doesn’t turn you homosexual, it at least renders you less capable of loving your wife.

It is my observation that boys at that age have less tolerance for homosexuality than just about any other class of people. They speak badly about homosexuality. And that’s because they don’t want to be that way. They don’t want to fall into it. And that’s a good instinct. After all, homosexuality, we know, studies have been done by the National Institute of Health to try to prove that its genetic and all those studies have proved its not genetic. Homosexuality is inflicted on people.”

Schwartz then recalled “a very good friend” of his “who was in the homosexual lifestyle for a long time,” saying that he “had good conversations about, about the malady that he suffered.” He then relayed “an astonishingly insightful remark” his friend had made about the relationship between pornography and being gay:

SCHWARTZ: And one of the things that he said to me, that I think is an astonishingly insightful remark. He said, “all pornography is homosexual pornography because all pornography turns your sexual drive inwards. Now think about that. And if you, if you tell an 11-year-old boy about that, do you think he’s going to want to go out and get a copy of Playboy? I’m pretty sure he’ll lose interest. That’s the last thing he wants.” You know, that’s a, that’s a good comment. It’s a good point and it’s a good thing to teach young people.

Schwartz then added a slight caveat, saying, “if it doesn’t turn you homosexual, it at least renders you less capable of loving your wife. And it’s something you need to be healed of.”

Okay GOP…regarding the above outlined hate speech, I have not heard even ONE of you counter that or even so much as distance yourself from it. And I have been scanning and reading every media outlet FOR that rebuttal (both video and print). No one. Not one of you.

So, as I told Seth a couple of months ago:

DANIEL: “Mark my words…The GOP is already burning through their small stack of wedge issues – which shows their desperation – and I promise you the next wedge issue they throw out there will be about gays.”

And viola!! The GOP NEVER proves me wrong. (sometimes that tends to get a little scary)

You all can be the judges of the latest GOP theory.

But for you Republickers out there who are STILL not sure how to pick a real gay out of a crowd (because they threw down the latest issue of AssMasters), I’ve thoughtfully provided you with the following checklist to aid you in your continued efforts to “LOVE THY NEIGHBOR” and not “BEARING FALSE WITNESS”.

Happy hunting:

1. We could care less who Brittany Spears is sleeping with.
2. We understand the differences between 27 brands of imported Chardonnay.
3. We can call anyone “honey” including pets.
4. We know someone who was in the emergency room with Richard Gere and the gerbil.
5. We understand the immense importance of quality lighting.
6. We can be at a crowded disco the size of a baseball field and still spot a toupee.
7. We can tell a woman we love her bathing suit, and truly mean her bathing suit.
8. We can explain the nuances between steady date, boyfriend and lover.
9. We really have “Been there, Done that.”
10. Our women friends will tell us everything we want to know about their boyfriends.
11. We’re the only type of male who gets to say “fabulous.”
12. We can have naked pictures of men we don’t know in our house.
13. We can have naked men we don’t know at our house.
14. We know how to handle the telephone like a Stradivarius.
15. We understand why God invented spandex.
16. We understand why God didn’t intend everyone to wear it.
17. We know how to get back at just about everyone. And have.
18. We know that the most important part of a party’s decor is the catering staff.
19. We only wear polyester when we mean to.
20. We can smile to let someone know we hate them.
21. We can freeze a troll from 20 feet away.
22. We’re good pals with women other people can’t stand.
23. We’ve always got an opinion.
24. We’ve read the book, seen the movie, done the musical.
25. We know how to dress strategically.
26. Our car has an amusing female name.
27. We’re the only one at our reunion who looks better than you did in high school.
28. We know that sex complicates things. So?
31. We know that being called a “cheap slut” isn’t actually an insult.
32. There’s a married guy somewhere who is terrified of us.
33. Nobody tells us what to do in bed…unless we tell them what to tell us.
34. We have a medicine chest stocked for any occasion.
35. We have at least one movie musical on video.
36. We’re not embarrassed to sing in a piano bar.
37. We’re embarrassed by people who sing in piano bars.
38. We never hold a grudge for longer than a decade or two.
39. We know how to make an entrance.
40. We know when to make an exit.
41. We worry about people we don’t even know – like Barack Obama.
42. We choose the most fabulous greeting cards.
43. We know how to program our VCR.
44. We’ve got sunscreen at every conceivable SPF level.
45. We have a cologne display worthy of Bloomingdales.
46. We understand, viscerally, Joan Crawford.
47. Some of our best friends are our ex lovers.
48. We know when to play dumb.
49. We know what to do for a hangover.
50. Yes, we do have a condom.
51. We’ve called someone “girlfriend” who is neither a girl nor a friend.
52. One or more of the following apply to us:

  • a) We adore Lady GaGa.
  • b) We hate Lady GaGa.
  • c) We hate people who adore Lady GaGa.
  • d) We hate people who hate Lady GaGa.
  • e) We don’t give a damn about Lady GaGa.
  • f) Who is Lady GaGa?

53. You can supply the last names to the following list:

  • a) Bernadette
  • b) Chita
  • c) Barbra

54. We made Donna Summer a star.
55. We made Donna Summer a has-been.
56. Tanning salons were invented for us.
57. We’ve made sunbathing a performance art.
58. We know when the party’s over.
59. We know where to go after the party’s over.
60. We’re fearless about fighting the elements, especially gravity.
61. When we hear “a stitch in time saves nine” we think of

  • a) Our grandma
  • b) Our face lift
  • c) John Wayne Bobbit

62. We know that pigs and bears are not necessarily rural wildlife.
63. Our roommate can be our roommate and not our “roommate.”
64. We know that referring to someone as “a real lady” isn’t necessarily a compliment.
65. Our favorite dinner accessory may also be our dinner companion.
66. If our cat is a female, we swear it’s a lesbian.
67. If our cat is a male, we swear it’s a lesbian.
68. We sing along with songs that make most females cringe, like “Stand by your man”.
69. We’ve been to a bris, a barmitzvah, a christening, a first communion and too many weddings and we have a carefully considered evaluation of the food after each.
70. We’ll never have to hear our mother complain about our wife.
71. A two-seater convertible seems perfectly practical to us.
72. We have a favorite Disney character and it’s usually a nasty one.
73. We’ve left someone totally speechless.
74. We’ve shaved something other than our face.
75. All our friends do not have to “get along”.
76. We have a large collection of anniversary pictures. They may be with different guys, however.
77. Our love handles are actually used as such.
78. When someone turns his back on us, we actually consider it an opportunity.
79. We’ve got a large assortment of movie-star biographies.
80. We’ve got the most interesting coffee table books.
81. We know where to find a meat rack and it ain’t in our kitchen drawer.
82. We have a sexual persuasion with its own flag.
83. At some moment in our life we’ve envisioned having back-up girls.
84. We know our enemies.
85. After a workout at the gym, we feel like a new man. And he’s right there in the shower.
86. We’re Lady GaGa’s biggest fan.
87. We know that Lady GaGa’s biggest fan is Lady GaGa.
88. Not only have we added spice to our life – sometimes we’ve added side dishes.
89. We know that “small talk” can be about spirituality or politics, and “important issues” can be about hair.
90. We’ve actually lived out some of our fantasies.
91. Unlike most straight women, we have no problem being treated solely as a sex object.
92. We have no doubts about the accuracy of the Kinsey Report.
93. We know, by heart, every line in:

  • a) All about Eve
  • b) The Rocky Horror Picture Show
  • c) Our face

94. We are ALWAYS ready for our close-up.
95. We have 412 ways to tell someone to get lost. 136 are non-verbal.
96. We can lip-sync to at least one Supreme’s song.
97. We have a carefully selected Yiddish vocabulary.
98. Even if we’re in Kansas, we’re not in Kansas anymore.
99. We know exactly how many martinis it takes.
100. When throwing a party, we know how to put out quite a spread. Sometimes after the party too.

There now…did ANY of that include porn?!?! Yeah, I thought not.

Thanks for letting me blow another one of your shitty views out of the water.

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How Does One Giftwrap A Hag?

Posted by Daniel on September 1, 2009


With my birthday coming this Friday, I’ve decided to post the following b-day request.

Seth and I are still on the lookout for our very own Hag. (female hang-out friend) (interesting fact: I just found out that the the Lesbian equivalent is called a “LEZBRO”.)

Please feel free to fill out the following application and email it back to us at C’mon, make a birthday boy happy.

Hags – 4 – Us

Name: _______________________________

Desired New Name (to be designated by your new GAY): _________________________

Weight: ______________

REAL Weight: ____________________________________

Age: _________________

TRUE Hair Color: __________, ____________________, _________________, & _______________

Complexion: __________________(eg.: Fair, Oily, Ashy, Yikes, yadda-yadda-yadda)


Address: (if you live with your parents, put down the pen and just walk away now)

Phone Numbers: (You MUST be reachable at ANY dramatic time)

Home:_______________ Cell:________________ Text Limit:______________

Email Address:_____________________________ Twitter Name:____________________

MySpace URL:_____________________________ Facebook URL:______________________


Current Relationship Status: (because your new GAY MUST come first)

Last Time You Had Sex: (because it WILL be the last!!)

How Do You Rate Your Looks? (remember, your new GAY is ALWAYS the pretty one)

Own Your Own Vehicle? (it must have room for people you won’t know…and wigs)

What’s Your Normal Bedtime? (your new Gay WILL require 2AM bar pick-up service)

Able To Work Alone? (at “last call”, that’s how you will end up)

Are You Always The Center Of Attention? (those days are GONE)

Into Clubbing? How Often? Even Baby Seals? (just kidding…?)

How Big Are Your Boobs? (this is very important to your Gay, as he’ll need a place to rest his cocktail, although small ones are just as funny and pettable)

Make-Up Habits…How Much & How Often? (don’t up-stage your Gay…it could be fatal)

What Importance Do You Apply To Personal Hygiene? (Irish Spring soap and duct tape do not count)


How Sympathetic Can You Be? (this is a deal breaker)

What Is Your Credit Score? (and where is the credit card)

Where Do You See Yourself In 10 Years? (because we don’t have a retirement plan)

How Well Do You Take Teasing? (which is Gay-Speak for the hard truth!!)

How Many Shopping Bags Can You Hold At Once? (gym membership not included)

How Many Gay Men Do You Know? (numbers…we need numbers!!!)

How Many Of Them Have You Tried To Sleep With? (we promise not to laugh)


Do You Have A Good Sense Of Humor? (you WILL need it)

Are You Willing To Be The Brunt Of EVERY Joke? (it WILL happen)

How Well Do You Take Criticism? (and you WILL take it)

What Type Of Gay Are You Looking For And What Makes You Think YOU Deserve One? (creativity counts)

What You’ll Pay For Your Gay To LIE About Your Weight? (trust us…it’ll happen)

Willing To Relocate? How Far? How Often? (there will be pageants to go to)


The following is a test of your math, agility and I.Q.:

Your mother just died…Your house just burnt down…You’ve discovered you over-tanned and Found a dark mole…So…How fast can you get dressed, get down to the bar and dust the cigarette ashes off your nelly owners’ shoulders?

If Johnny is leaving the bar at 1:15 AM and Pablo is meeting him at the Denny’s 5 miles down the street and the speed limit is 35 mph, are you willing to pay for their breakfast?

When being forced to watch “Titanic” with your Gay for the zillionth time, and then an all-day shopping binge, how fast can you stand between your owner and an angry Teabagger when he’s throwing a punch?

Previous Hag Experience:


Personal References: ( you must have a MINIMUM of 16 and NONE of them can be related to you, Lesbians, Under 18, or poking you)


Twitter Name

Facebook Info

Mobile Number

I , solemnly swear and attest that the information given by me in this application is true. Only at the discretion of my new Gay may any of the above information be changed or exaggerated, and only when it damn well pleases him. I understand that any falsification – either here or found in the future – is grounds for immediate termination and public humiliation.

______________________________________________ ______________

Signature (or paw print depending on your current looks) Date

Fags-4-Us ©” is copyrighted and licensed under ownership of “The Tempest Online™”. Any attempt to copy this material without prior written consent will be grounds for prosecution. Information provided on this application by the applicant that is found to be false, misleading or otherwise incorrect will result in non-consideration. We reserve the right to refuse service to anyone. No shoes, no shirt, no service. Let there be peace on Earth. Lather, rinse, repeat. Remember to always have your pets spayed or neutered. He who is without dog shit on his sneakers, take the first step on the white rug. If at first you don’t succeed, give up. Did you know that Mars is known as the “red planet”? Short people got no reason to live. You look like my mother…I HATE my mother!!! Constipated people don’t give a shit. I just farted. A Tootsie Pop is neither a Tootsie nor a Pop…Discuss. The only good corpse is a dead corpse. I’m a Barbie Girl, in a Barbie world. My ass itches. My time is NOW!!! Careful, Heather, you might digest something. The rain is really the angels crying, probably because of something YOU did. Ten dykes on a flatbed does NOT a parade make. Gawdamn, Veronica…Did you have a brain tumor for breakfast?? Welcome to the magical world of being a future welfare mother. If you sprinkle when you tinkle, be a sweetie and wipe the seatie. Oh, and once again, if you try to copy this material in ANY way, your ass will be prostituted to the fullest extent of the law!!! Thank you, we’ll be here all week…try the veal.


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2-Week Notice

Posted by Daniel on July 2, 2009

This morning, my employer will walk into the office and find a letter from me informing him that I am putting in my two-week notice.

Yeah, that’s a pretty heavy thing to do, I know.  Not to mention scary and risky in these uncertain economic times.

Trust me when I say that Seth and I have talked long and hard about this and have weighed out all the options from all angles.  We have debated the pro’s & con’s over and over until we were blue in the face.

And we’ve decided it’s time to get away from this place.  You can read the straw that broke the camel’s back below, then tell me how stupid we are:


To: NAME REDACTEDPhotobucket
Re: 2-Week Notice

Dear Sir:

This letter is to serve as my 2-week notice of intent to terminate my employment here at Villa Hermosa.  My last day will be Wednesday, July 15, 2009.

While I loved working here and feel that I learned quite a lot in a relatively short time, I feel for the past month or so that there has been too much dishonesty and tension from you and your accountant in this office.  Another reason is the fact that you refuse to ever pay me on time, sometimes making me wait weeks after every payday to be paid.  Today I found out (from your accountant Renae) that your accountant, Renae, was talking to you about me and referred to me as a “Fag”.  Her words were, “I can’t work with this fag!!”.  This by her own admission.  By her still being employed here and not even reprimanded by you for this, I cannot help but feel that this form of discrimination and harassment is also acceptable to you.  None of this is conducive to a healthy work environment and continues to take our focus off of the bigger picture…that being the care and maintenance of the property as well as the concerns of you and the tenants.

I wish you all the best in your future endeavors, as well as the best of luck with your current staff.

Many thanks for the opportunity to work beside you and to learn all that I have learned, and I hope that I was able to contribute some good to the properties as a whole.



Daniel L. Anderson
Agent/Property Manager
Villa Hermosa Apts.
(559) ***-9609
(559) ***-8918 – fax

Okay, it was a bit on the “wordy” side, I know, but I felt given the circumstances, he should know just what kind of a pickle he and his new sleep partner (oops, did I forget to mention that???) have now put themselves in.

Funny thing about California…they take this kind of treatment very seriously.

So although I will be soon looking for employment and that possibly lenghthy process scares the shit out of me, we are both still very glad to be soon leaving this place and this man.


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Lessons To Learn

Posted by Daniel on June 26, 2009

You know, I’ve heard so much about how gay people just want to make everyone else gay.

Well, first off, I would hope the hell NOT!!!  Because, and forgive the brutal honesty, most of you hetero’s out there just don’t have the looks or style to carry off such a trait.  And your taste in fashion and furniture… peeeeeeeeeuuuuuuuuuuwwwwwwwww!!!

Besides, I would hate for you to have to go through the schooling WE had to contend with.  I mean really…I had to re-take “LUBE-101″ twice before I could move on to the next course…which was NO elective…”Moisturizing and Products”.

Just take a gay-ander at this:

This ain’t no Romper Room, bitches!!!

Oh, and then there were the required toys that we had to play with:

Then, before we graduate, we have to go through the finals:

And then we have to try being Jocks:

Then we get all gussied up and have a parade:

And lets not forget when we finally pair up and start nesting:

(Just a note…we don’t usually keep a German soundtrack playing in our house, nor do we break into interpretive dance when there is a grease fire in the kitchen.  And who the fuck designed “Christopher”???)

Wanna argue against gay Marriage?…:

So watch out, America…we’re out to turn you around.

And you’d better hope that’s the ONLY way we turn you!!!


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Democratic Drive By…

Posted by Daniel on June 18, 2009


So, what are we supposed to do now, Mr. President?  Just roll with it because that’s how you roll?

President Obama’s decision to grant some benefits to the same-sex partners of federal employees is seen by some as his attempt to extend an olive branch to the gay and lesbian community, but critics say it’s “too little, too late.”

“It seems to me at least to be a nice gesture, but a disappointment,” said Richard Kim, a senior editor at The Nation magazine.

The memorandum Obama signed Wednesday is not expected to grant health and retirement benefits to same-sex partners, as that is prohibited under the Defense of Marriage Act.

“It will absolutely be seen as something good — but I think, for example, it not including full health insurance — that is going to put a real microscope on that question. You know, why not?” Kim said, adding that the memo applies only to federal employees, so most people will not be affected by it.

Charles Moran, the spokesman for the Log Cabin Republicans, said the lack of full benefits in Thursday’s memorandum shows a lack of commitment to the gay community.

“That’s the part that just shows that the Obama administration really isn’t serious about their promises to the gay and lesbian community. Things like the health benefits, things like retirement benefits and coverage for spouses. These are the core issues,” Moran said.

“Why start the marathon if you’re not serious about ending the race?” he added.

White House officials involved in discussions with gay-rights advocates say that Obama favors extending full health care benefits to same-sex couples but that will take legislation to accomplish.

Moran said Obama has had multiple opportunities to fulfill his promises to the gay and lesbian community — including by repealing the military’s “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy and standing against the Justice Department motion filed last week in support of the Defense of Marriage Act.

“Here we are, several months after he’s been inaugurated, and we’ve gotten basically nothing. So it is too little, too late,” Moran said.

White House Spokesman Robert Gibbs said Obama will keep his word.

“[Extending benefits to same-sex couples] is a matter of fairness. The president is committed to ensuring that fairness as well as working on and fulfilling other promises that he has made in the campaign around things like ‘don’t ask, don’t tell,’ ” Gibbs said.

The president has faced sharp criticism over the Justice Department’s filing in support of the Defense of Marriage Act, which opposes same-sex marriage. The act used the government’s interest in opposing incestuous marriages to support its position against same-sex marriage.

Openly gay Rep. Barney Frank said the Obama administration made a “big mistake” and is calling on the president to clearly explain his views on the matter.

“The wording they used was inappropriate,” the Massachusetts Democrat told the Boston Herald in an interview published in the paper’s Wednesday edition.

Many gay activists have called on Frank and other gay members of Congress to speak out against the recent Department of Justice brief.

The rancor threatens to disrupt a big Democratic National Committee gay fundraiser in Washington next week.

Vice President Biden is the guest at next Thursday’s DNC’s LBGT Leadership Council 10th Annual Dinner in Washington. Critics are calling for Frank and other gay congressional leaders to boycott the dinner, for which tickets go for $1,000 to $30,000 a plate.

Activist David Mixner and blogger Andy Towle, two well-known gay rights advocates, announced that they were pulling out, citing disappointment with the Defense of Marriage Act brief.

If you’ll remember, the president also rankled gay advocates before his inauguration when he named megachurch pastor the Rev. Rick Warren to deliver the invocation at his swearing-in. Warren, in an interview with, likened homosexuality to bestiality and incest. He also supported California’s Proposition 8, which banned same-sex marriage in that state.

During the Warren controversy, Obama — who frequently spoke in favor of gay and lesbian rights during the campaign but has said he opposes same-sex marriage — declared himself “a fierce advocate for gay and lesbian Americans.”

Given the support Obama received from the gay community during the campaign season,  so far the Obama administration has let gay and lesbian rights activists down.

On election day Obama got 70 percent of the vote from those who identified themselves as gay, lesbian or bisexual.

“I think there is an overwhelming feeling that he has not lived up to expectations on these matters,” he said.

But, he added, “there’s some sympathy for him — there’s the worst recession since the Great Depression, troops are in two different countries in the Middle East — so there’s a lot on his plate.”

Kim said Obama’s full agenda, however, shouldn’t be used as an excuse to delay action on gay rights issues. If the administration waits until there is a news hole, then the issues will be subject to a lot of debate, he said.

“In the middle of the health care debate, saying we’re going to do health care, we’re going to fix the economy and then this other [gay rights] stuff — of course it’s right. It doesn’t require a national debate,” he said. “This is stuff that’s been debated forever. America does not need a huge national debate on some of these issues,” Kim said.

Kim said while Obama has disappointed the gay community, he still has some time to make good on his campaign promises.

“I think people will wait through the first two legislative sessions, but then after that some of this stuff does need to move to the front,” he said.

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Societies Incurable Cancer

Posted by Seth on June 8, 2009

My family is very conservative and religious. Coming from a small town in West Virginia, this is the norm. One thing that is not normal is being gay. In our “progressive” society, we are taught that gays are sinners, pedophiles, deviants, and a disgusting life form that the world should be rid of. Only if it was known how many closet cases there are you see at family gatherings, the super market, and at church. Are they not considered “sinners” because they’re not out on display for people to ridicule? No. Why? Because they’re the ones hiding behind their finger pointing.

Just because you don’t understand what it’s like to be something you’re not, does not give you the right to belittle, lie, spread rumors, and OH YEAH…JUDGE! How Christian is that to cast your judgment on others while claiming to be pure and perfect. John 8:7 He who is without sin cast the first stone!  But wait…that part of the Bible we’ll just forget exists. Why? Because it impedes our gossip time. Doesn’t God speak against gossip? Oh yeah….Whoever secretly slanders his neighbor, him I will destroy. Psalms 101:5

I have been told I “pick and choose what I want to believe” the Bible. Honestly, yes I do. Everyone does! How can you not? There are so many contradictions and implications in the Bible, it is impossible to follow it word by word. Conservatives and the religious claim they don’t, but they do! We have NUTS in this world that say “God hates fags!” or “AIDS is a gift from God!” Both are lies and cries of fear instilled in people by our politicians and evangelicals that “accept donations”. It’s not gays and lesbians that are making this country fail, it’s ignorance from people like Fred Phelps that preach hate. Look at Al Qaeda! How long is it going to take before conservative extremists start suicide missions into AIDS clinics and gay owned businesses? Oh wait…it’s already happening!

Why?! How did America go from “…Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” to “God Hates Fags!”

Homosexuality is NOT a choice! Who would choose to risk the love of their family, their reputation, friends, taking a chance on being beaten to death in the woods, or raped in a school lockerroom, risk their faith for fear that what they were raised to believe is wrong is “infecting” you. Why would someone choose to go through discrimination? It’s like saying “Hey! Wouldn’t it be fun to go back in time and be a slave working in fields being beaten by a whip?” No! That’s just as ignorant as “choosing” to be gay. I’ve been asked before, “How do you know you’re gay?” All I can say is, “How do you know you’re straight?” You don’t and neither do I. It’s not something that can be explained. Why should I have to explain it. I’m not a threat to anyone. I’m not out to “ruin” a family or “take their morals”. I don’t threaten your marriage, divorce threatens your marriage. The divorce rate is now at a staggering 50%! What is the #1 cause? Finances! Not gays!

Another “defense” from anti-gay groups is Sodom and Gomorrah. Don’t throw that in my face. God destroyed the cities because they wanted to gay rape two angels? I don’t think so. I’m pretty sure the cities were destroyed because…“Now this was the sin of your sister Sodom: She and her daughters were arrogant, overfed and unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy. They were haughty and did detestable things before me. Therefore I did away with them as you have seen.” Ezekiel 16:48-50. Though I do NOT believe the cities were destroyed because of gays, I do believe there was fire and brimstone falling from the sky. I found it very fascinating when I watched the History Channel, yes I am nerdy, and they were running a documentary on the destruction of the cities. It was not so much a story in the Bible to teach people a lesson, but it was a pretty accurate recording of a geological event. I know it’s very hard for some people to connect the Bible to science, but it is possible. The documentary investigates the possibility that a volcanic eruption occurred at the time this story took place. It is very insightful and fascinating! I highly recommend it!

It saddens me to know that not only my family, but so many others are not willing to move outside their comfort zones to just think! Most of them are just afraid to be proven wrong about what they were raised to believe. It’s almost funny to me. I was always taught to pray for wisdom and learn. I remember his first sermon when our church moved to a new location. He was having trouble getting some of the church members to follow him to the new building. I’m can’t remember exactly why, but I believe it was simply because of the name on the sign outside. Anyway, he got most, if not all, the members to come to the first Sunday service. I remember his first sermons title was “Moving Outside Your Comfort Zone”. I don’t remember what he said in his sermon, but I love the title. I can almost say I kind of live by it. My thoughts are, how am I supposed to grow as a person or a Christian if I don’t have the willingness to learn or see someones point of view. I have to see other peoples points of view. It keeps me humble.

This is just something I’ve been dealing with for a while. I don’t understand how we are all supposed to grow as a race if we live by the instructions of people 2000 years ago. Gays didn’t threaten cultures back then and they don’t now. I just want to ask everyone how do gays and lesbians threaten your religion or your life? Gays aren’t going to convert you or steal your religion. No one can make you do something you don’t want to do. We’re not going to make you go gay and you’re not going to make us go straight. So many people are afraid gays are going to take God and morals away from them. Well, all I can say to that is I’m a gay Christian and you can’t take that from me.

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Our Right – Our Fight – Our Support

Posted by Daniel on June 2, 2009

Fresno Rally - 05/30/2009
Say what you will about the GLBT community…we are nothing if not bound (some literally) and determined to get our fair share of the Apple Pie.

And we have decided to throw all of our support behind those who continue to battle the narrow-minded religious right.

I refer to the issue of Marriage and the fact that the GLBT community is STILL banned from this CIVIL RIGHT here in California.

And stop griping at me about how marriage is all about the religious ceremony.

Buuuulllll Shit!!!

It’s also about all of those nifty little FEDERAL/STATE benefits you  are automatically granted as soon as a marriage certificate is filed or issued.  Again, the church does not give those benefits, the State and Federal government does.  And we want those same rights.

You can argue all you want about the sanctity of marriage (in a church), but we are tired of arguing about the civil side of it.  As a matter of fact, we won’t be asking any more for our civil rights to be granted.  Instead, we are demanding the same rights you take for granted every day.

And please stop telling us that gays would make a mockery of marriage.  You seem to have no problem with Britney Spears getting married to some fool in Vegas, only to file for an annulment just hours later (after they’d sobered up).  And what about those lame TV shows “The Bachelor” and “The Bachelorette”.  Where are your minions with their picket signs for these travesties?  I never hear you people bitching about the sanctity of marriage when it comes to the STAGGERING divorce rate, either.

This past weekend, a rally was held right here in Fresno, CA called “Meet In The Middle” that drew thousands of people from across California as well as from many places around the country.  It was held downtown in front of City Hall on one very hot day.

There was first a 14.5 mile protest walk that started in Selma, CA and ended five hours later in downtown Fresno.  Seth and I arrived downtown and took part in a rally that showed us this fight for our EQUAL civil rights is FAR from over.  I have not seen so many good people fired up over civil rights since the 60’s/70’s.  true, I was still a very young kid back then, but I remember much about those times.

Here are some of the images from this past Saturday…



















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